Someone reinstated fairly recent told me part of what encouraged him to "come back to Jehovah" was because I always nodded at him, gave him a smile, or said said quiety, "wsup _________." He's someone that actually benefits from being a JW because what he got DF'd for, and his lifestyle while DF'd was nothing nice. The stuff he was into I just kinda chalk up to that time frame, the Reagan Era (some of you know what I'm talking about. There's no excuse for kids of the following generation to follow that same path IMO.) His sons are like blood brothers to me although we're not related and they never got baptized.
With other DF'd ones I've known throughout the years, most of the time they don't open themselves up for any interaction. Most of them when you come across them after not seeing them for sometime and upon approaching them give you the "I'm DF'd" response. It's like they've got a disease that isn't apparent upon sight so they have to tell you, "look man, I'm DF'd." As if the goattee didn't already tell me something was up. The last person I got that from I responded in a manner that I kinda regret, but not entirely. I told him to get himself together at a convention. That's the best I could come up with all the while I don't believe in this mess. Just didn't know what else to say to him, beside you never know he might be more pious than a regular pioneer and rat me out. Oh well.
Several years ago, I had a friend that I completely shitted on in hindsight while he was DF'd. He's back in now, in another state, pioneering along with his wife. Prior to that he got the axe and after he got reinstated I didn't treat him like I should have. It wasn't entirely because of his past of being DF'd as much I moved on in life, but I've always wondered if I offended him or hurt him by giving him a cold response. I didn't want to hang out with him, go to the game or anything. Didn't want to be bothered with him. All these years later I figure he's moved on, so have I. Life goes on.